Booty-call etiquette: 3 rules to keep it interesting

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booty call mainEvery man and woman has heard of it – the booty-call.  What’s not to love: physical intimacy without the strings, relatively little commitment and investment, and the freedom to choose who and when.

Problem with booty-calls is its fragility. You can have it yesterday, and it can be gone today, all depending on how you behave.  If this is what you want, then the question is: How do you maintain it for as long as possible?

Avoid assumptions

Understand the origins of the booty call and avoid any false assumptions.  A booty-call relationship has its limitations.  Avoid misunderstandings and emotional confusion or attachment.  Keep focused – the booty.  If you start thinking about the emotions outside of the physical act, your booty-call relationship will likely end in emotional flames.  End it if you sense attachment is growing.

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  • Teddy Austin

    The whole concept of a booty call is such an oxymoron. “A steady one-night-stand partner”. This is because, contrary to popular belief, intimacy can never be limited to the physical alone. The criteria of selecting a partner, even for a fling, come dangerously close to finding a life-long wife/husband – interesting, comfortable to be with, funny, a lady/gentleman, good in bed, ambitious And lots of english words to try and justify and fling vis a vis a relationship just end up distorting the truth and confusing the parties involved. Plus, consequences are still just as adverse if not more complicated, in a booty-call arrangment – risk of disease, pregnancy, broken homes etc
    Therefore if one just wants to engage in casual sex, just go it the tried and proven formula – KISS (Keep It Short Sweet). Or buy it. If not, just swallow the bullet and look for a girlfriend/boyfriend.

    • Mr Nice

      Teddy I disagree with your sentiments. You say it doesn’t make sense seeking a sexual ONLY partner where finding a not-only-sexual partner (where sex, among other “benefits”, can also be enjoyed) is one and the same thing?
      Women might have their reasons (I do not have them) for settling for a sexual only partner, in this case the booty call were discussing, however, men (such as myself) understand that a sexual partner is one whose degree of physical attractiveness greatly outweighs any other form attractiveness (character/personality, financial, spousal, functional/role etc) that they would otherwise seek in a longer term, conventional arrangement such as is in marriage, dating or parenting relationships.
      Let me bring my point home and break it down with this simple example. I know a girl I would have a bootycall arrangement with because I am undoubtedly attracted to her physically. If it was up to me I would have sex with her into old age, HOWEVER, I would never introduce her to anyone in my life. She does not present herself well enough to complement who I am in society, she is not learned, we do not share any beliefs, interests or perspectives about life and more importantly (but not to sound condescending) we belong to different classes in the society.
      Picture the 33 year old single Brand Manager of a beer company and a 25 year old sales girl from the firm he’s contracted to do a sales roadshow for his brand, who just recently came to Nairobi and has abit of money from the job to polish her looks up abit.

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